Mentoring is coaching from a third party.
Here's the essence of coaching:
- Verify the other person wants help.
- Generate options with the other person.
- Walk through consequences of those options. Wait for the coachee to choose an option (unless other people's safety is at stake).
- Create an action plan to implement those chosen options.
And now for the other side, if you do not have a coach
or a mentor... or at a minimum a good sounding board